Dating before engagement
Uncle Batta shared with me the questions he asks each of his prospective sons-in-law, and I think they are good questions for any Christian couple to ask themselves when contemplating a serious relationship. Do you love the Lord with all your heart, mind, soul, and strength?
It’s a valid question for him to ask, because he believes in the Christian principle of the man and woman in a marriage being “equally yoked, “meaning that they share the same religious beliefs and depth of commitment to their faith.
As the father of seven children, including five daughters, my uncle has counseled a lot of young people about relationships, love, and marriage.
I sympathize with the guys who were interested in courting his daughters.
If you or your intended spouse have conditions for each other or each other’s family, it would be wise to discuss them long before you commit to marriage.
Remember that the marriage vows say “for better or for worse.” You have to be prepared to take the good with the bad, or at least with the not so good. Do you promise to treat this person respectfully and cause no harm to him or her?
While having the strong feelings of love towards someone is essential to getting married, other factors are important to consider before walking down the aisle.You are marrying an individual with unique tastes, desires, and interests. Sadly, some people grow up in homes where domestic violence is part of life.Those individuals, whether male or female, often have difficulty breaking the cycle, even though they know it is wrong in every way to strike a spouse in anger.It was more than a physical attraction; it was like she was meant to be a part of me and my life. Do you have any major concerns to discuss or things you want changed before marrying this person?If someone enters into a marriage thinking that he or she will love the person only under certain conditions, such as “only if he buys us a million-dollar house” or “only if he agrees not to watch football on Sunday afternoon,” there may well be challenges ahead.